How To Become Your Dream

There's no question in my mind that in order to thrive, to live the life of your dreams, you need both physical and mental balance/well being. But how to get that balance and stay balanced in today's world is the question. Yesterday I was listening to a talk by Tony Robbins about how to get what you truly want. Yes, I still love TA. My Dad took me to my first TA seminar when I was 15 years old-The Firewalk Experience. That's another blog. Back to the point, I think Tony Robbins nailed it when it comes to what it takes to get what you desire so I'm sharing the key points of his inspiring talk. 

Getting what you want  begins with a vision. It begins with knowing what you want. The vision has to be compelling and you have to have compelling enough reasons that you'll follow through when it gets tough, i.e., even if you get off target you'll get right back on.

Next, you have to change the standard to which you hold yourself. Having a desire for change and/or willpower are not enough, you have to change what you do each day, your daily rituals, raise your standards of what you expect of yourself, create new habits. For example, a fit person naturally expects themselves to work out a minimum number of times per week, it is a part of their routine, somebody overweight does not have the same expectations even though they may have the desire.
 
Even Tiger Woods at the top of his game went out and changed his swing because he wanted to stay on top/be best. And Michael Phelps, how did he win by 100th of one second? Was it just massive skill or a standard to which he held himself? He said to himself, "I am the champion and nobody is going to take this from me." And his daily rituals allowed him to push beyond at the final moment. He does two to three times the workouts that most of his competitors do every day, even though everyone said he'd over train or wear himself out.

I want to see you excel and get to your best self this year, in 2014.  As Tony Robbins says it well, "It's not what we get that makes us happy, it's who we become and what we can give as a result of who we become. We derive great satisfaction out of life by being able to help others." 
 
So let's get started by taking these steps that Robbins recommends:

1. Choose  an area of life you want to improve?
Relationship, career, health...

2. Write down what your life is like right now, be as specific as possible. Wake up exhausted. Be truthful. I'm not in a relationship and wish I was in one or I'm in a relationship and wish I wasn't. Write how it is

3. What are the rituals that have put you there? Whatever the results there's some rituals that you repeat that keep you there...Usually not one thing, usually a few things...

4. What is your vision. Be specific. Rather than saying "I want to lose 10 pounds," try describing how you want to look and feel, lean and strong, have more energy, feel and look my best, be able to run three miles, etc.

5. What are the rituals/daily habits that will get you there? How often would you have to work out? What days, what time? Willpower doesn't last, but rituals will last a lifetime.

Just do two to three things every day that are in the direction of where you want to be and who you want to become. Once you discipline yourself in one area of life you'll start doing it in others.

Start a few of those actions and lock them in place. If there's anything I can do to help, let me know.

To hear Tony Robbins whole talk on the subject, click HERE.

Discover what you're capable of and get to the other side of your true self...

"There's the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The pain of discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs tons." -TA

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